September 3, 2013


Sometimes shit happens that breaks your heart

Sometimes, heart-wrenching shit happens, stuff that you have no control over. Decisions made by others, that involve you, but are beyond your influence. No matter how much it may suck, nor how raw the hurt there are things that happen that you just have to live with because “they are what they are”.

Each time life knocks you over, there is a choice to be made and often it’s the only choice you have. And that is deciding how you will react or respond to a situation. The option of morphing into a grief ball may be initially appealing, but it’s not a great long term strategy. Stepping, up, dusting off and hopping back onto the proverbial horse is what strengthens the spirit and grows you as a person.

Stronger and wiser, albeit with a piece of your heart forever nursing a bandage.

How am I certain of this? Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.


But what have I really learnt?

I’ve learnt that even the darkest hours have 60 minutes, and despair eventually eases.

I’ve learnt that you can only control what you say, what you do and how you feel. Every body else is responsible for theirs. Themselves.

I’ve learnt that loving a person and nurturing the relationship is much more important than aggravating the issue.

I’ve learnt that owning your contribution to a situation and then forgiving yourself brings peace and power.

I’ve learnt that you are never alone in hurt. Others have survived it also and will usually offer themselves as a source of strength.

I’ve learnt that sometimes, shit just happens.

People are complex and relationships are therefore a tangled bundle of interrelated complexity. Like that huge bundle of spare cables, knotted, in a box  up high in a cupboard, they can be untangled but it may just take some time and much effort.

What has your heart taught you?

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Blogging on Tuesday again and joining the fab linkup that is IBOT with Jess over at her blog. See you there!!

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September 1, 2013


5 Random thoughts on Father’s Day

Happy Fathers’ Day to all of the dads today – the cool dads, the embarrassing dads, the new dads and to those dads who are no longer here but will be remembered loving and missed like crazy today. There is a saying that I’m sure you’ve come across in your time, and it’s very true […]

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August 27, 2013


Belkin’s @TV = gadget LOVE! A review.

  It’s absolutely no secret that I’m a gadget-girl and if something plugs in or takes batteries, I’m all over it. I could easily lose a day and a half in a Dick Smith store and in my opinion, a Retravision catalogue trumps just about any other junk mail. When Belkin asked me to review […]

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August 27, 2013


Oh, dear, they said … what??

Don’t you agree that one of the VERY best things about motherhood is enjoying the delightfully cute and funny things that children say and do? In the innocent midst of play and exploration, kids are often  oblivious to just how darn amusing they are. Until, something slips out from their mouths that is just not […]

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August 23, 2013


I watched this and then, yes, I judged.

I have previously written about how I like to live in a judgement free-zone, especially when it comes to someone’s decisions and actions around family life and the struggle than parenting can at times be. I’m all for making decisions that work best for you and your family, even if they are not widely understood […]

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August 14, 2013


Wordless Wednesday. Now we dance.

It was her first dance lesson yesterday, and even Christmas wouldn’t have been so exciting. It was a magical half hour, and despite looking a little lost occasionally, she just loved it. And she wants to go back. Today, tomorrow and forever. What have we done? What activities do your little ones do? The boys […]

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